SAFE HAVEN

Between midnight and dawn when the hot and cold dripping sweat feels like cold rain waking up dizzy seeing yourself as a drunken fool again and again. Hiding from the problems of your life is not an effective way of solving them. Nothing about sobriety is hard to understand it’s the way we try to live it that we make it difficult for ourselves. Living with addictions and the emotional torment is no easy ride. The decision to walk away is confusing with the fears we must confront. With every morning after we have the low feeling that no one cares about you and wanting to like yourself better but have not found any value about you yet. When you find it you will protect and defend it and this will only stay strong during sobriety. Relape will crush it and it will not be as strong again. Adding to more depression and the increase of the fear of self-destruction. This is the extreme dangers of relapse. During the morning after you may feel worthless and in most cases it becomes permanent. The addictions must stop now before you get this far along. The sadness will remain for awhile as the thoughts of addictions will stay with us. The warmth of our own acceptance begins it will slowly kill off all the discomforts in our soul. It is now empty as it waits to be filled with a better man. Sobriety is important and the only thing that will come to your rescue. Emotional strength will rise again and being sober is your safe haven. Your friends will be at the bar wishing they could be you. The long March down the dangerous road to your sober home wanting you to save them. Invite them in so that they can imitate your life to improve their lives the way you did your own.Wait for them they will be coming.

Being sober for any length of time is not easy at times but the struggle pays off.

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OUR PERFECT LIFE

Our perfect life is where we belong not what we force ourselves to adapt to. Relationships become boring unable to create anything new and useful. You have completed your duties now move on to another way of life. Devote your time to studying your favorite subject and not be connected with limits rules and demands that caused your stress then being desperate to get out of it. Fooling ourselves in believing we can change enough to be accepted. Playing a character we hate just to fit in. Why that group? Some people never travel with groups. What is comfortable to you? Being alone? Then do it. Stay alone and do your own thing. Relax and enjoy life. Live your own life not someone else’s. People that spend time alone is their own perfect fit. Many writers write large books in small rooms away from the distraction of people. Many of their pursuits in life failed because they didn’t fit in. No one fits in everywhere. Never thinking they would ever be successful as a writer. At one time they didn’t then they studied and became a writer. Getting drunk then recovering from a hangover then the booze again is a dangerous circle. When will you ever find the time to study?

. We all have to find our proper place in life we will never find it in bars and booze.

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THE LOST SON

A father said to his son about his addiction. You prove to me you are serious about changing your ways by helping yourself half way then I’ll make an effort to help you the rest of the way. Right now I’m not convinced you are serious and neither are you. Choose any method you wish and live with it for the rest of your life. The son came to his father and said he chose the Bible. The father asked his son to explain the lesson he learned and follow it for the remaining years of your life. The son responded by reading the “Parable of the lost son” in the bible. The father said to his son. You are almost out of the darkness now I will guide you the rest of the way to live in the spiritual light and you will never again return to darkness. As long as the son stayed with the bible all his doubts about his future have disappeared and confident they never will again.

. We all are lost and can be found if we look for ourselves and never give up trying.

. see ya’ next time